The work tends to go deepest with people who are open to looking inward. You don’t have to have everything figured out, but you do need a willingness to explore your patterns, your emotions, and the parts of you that have been trying to cope in the only ways they know how.
In couples work, I often sit with partners who feel stuck in painful cycles but genuinely want something different. They may come in feeling hopeless, but underneath that is usually a desire to understand each other and reconnect.
I once worked with a couple who felt like they were speaking completely different languages. Every conversation turned into conflict. As we slowed things down and explored the emotions underneath those reactions, they began to recognize each other in a new way. Over time, those same conversations became moments of connection instead of escalation.
This work may not be the right fit if you’re looking for quick fixes or someone to simply tell you what to do. It also may not feel helpful if you’re not ready to explore your own role in patterns or if there are needs that require a higher level of care, such as unmanaged addiction or safety concerns.
My goal is always to be honest and respectful of your time. If I’m not the right fit, I will help guide you toward someone who is.